Breaking the news of a divorce to anyone is difficult. However, if you have kids, it is more challenging because you have to think about how you are going to deliver the message, what to say and consider their ages and maturity levels. You also have to consider their personalities, and whether they will want to know things and ask lots of questions.
Right time and place
The timing and setting of the conversation is really important. Find a place where the kids feel relaxed and ideally, somewhere they can have space, since you do not know how they will react. Ask for their full attention and ensure they are not distracted by toys or other conversations.
United front
If you and the other parent can present a united front, it is highly beneficial for the child. Studies show that when both parents are involved in raising their child, they fare much better. For that reason, try to have this conversation as a family unit, with the same goal.
Honest but age-appropriate
It is critical to be honest, but you also have to consider your child’s age. If they are 5 or 6, the way you will speak with them is different than if they are 15. Also, the level of detail will be different. If your child is older, expect direct questions and anticipate how you will answer them.
Telling your children about divorce is hard. Approaching it with empathy, kindness and thoughtfulness will ensure that you are doing the best you can under these difficult circumstances. If you have questions about how to approach a specific subject, ask your attorney for guidance and counsel.
